"I want to do it because i want to do it."
- Amelia Earhart
When the whole world goes YAYYYYYYYYYYYY and Instagram pictures get all beachy and drinks get cold and ... guess what? You, dear momma, are like, “Um, wait. Dishes? Boogers? Interrupted sleep? Where’s my summer break?”
I always feel like summertime is a colorful ferris wheel ride of fun that never has a seat for me.
5 years into this here fitness business and, holy moly, nothing like growing up in public to make you want to crumble in any pursuit. "Failure is beautiful, blah blah blah blah," they say. Yeah yeah. It is. However, it still hurts like crazy. And I don't blame anyone for ever calling it quits when the going becomes a Groundhog Day of Failure Overload. But, I will say that one of the greatest gifts of still being here is that I've been able to witness firsthand some really powerful "myths versus truths" about the pursuit of human wellness. Here's 5 of the top ones. I hope they blow your mind a bit, as they have mine:
Aw, dang, these guys were such troopers for our first ever Can You Swing It episode! They are tough, they are strong, they were curious, and they were willing. I encourage you all to not forget how essential these members of our community are and how incredibly hard they work in unpredictable situations, often with little to no sleep. Three cheers to them.
Sometimes, late at night, when I’m weak-kneed and looking for a reason to abuse myself, I scroll through Facebook. And because of my industry, my feed is always either mom ads or fitness ads. And everytime I look at the fitness ads, I’m like WAIT, HOLD UP, how does this person have 1.3M views? Like, what? “She’s not even doing a squat well,” I think. “And, holy shit,” I say to myself, “those push-up things are a terrible idea for 99% of women.” Alas, though, she’s got her beautifully tanned tummy out, her glossy lips shining in the wind, and her punchy outfit loudly saying, “Nipple or Cheek May Appear, Keep Watching.”
So, a new little feature to MommaStrong land, based on the roots of why this program exists: That strength is about helping us do the scary sh*t in life. And, I'm not talking about bikinis like the rest of the fitness world. I'm talking about facing our personhood, facing our fears, facing our past, facing our weaknesses, facing our wildest dreams, facing our mortality, facing our humanity, and facing our children's porous and possible spirits every single day. ETC.
My sweet, amazing eldest child recently faced a terrible beast in the form of a long-distance 4th grade field trip to dig fossils. Now, obviously it's normal that a kid would be nervous with this sort of adventure, much of which we could also assume would be overshadowed by the excitement involved in a fossil dig AND a fancy bus ride AND a hotel room. However,
There ought to be a class in high school called, “Reality Check.”ve a class called, “Reality Check.” And in that class the teachers would be brave enough to share the fact that, yes, life is complicated. And this class ought to be taught by parents, who would dish it out in a real way. It’d be a real winner, this class: A combo of Scared Straight, Home Economics, and Sex Ed.
Being in the world of fitness and believing in the things I do about health is a little hard. Sure, I could easily tell you how to lose weight and get six pack. I could tell you how to be fitter than you’ve been in your whole life. I could convince you to get off sugar and live on greens. I could make this engine here have a million followers overnight
The other day, I woke up and had grown at least 3 feet. I walked around, taking my kids to school and going to meetings and working out, and just kept thinking, “Why am I so tall?” And the chairs upon which I sat felt so small and so, well, real. The steering wheel felt so cold and hard, so vinyl.
I kept thinking that I had snapped,